What’s happened to Valentines day?

by on February 15, 2013

home made valentines cardsOK, when did Valentines day change?!

When I was growing up, it was all about romantic love. the love between couples, or the unrequited love of a secret admirer. I never considered sending a card to my parents. I watched my school friends waving their coloured envelopes around at school, and I desperately wanted a card to drop through the door to reassure me that someone found me attractive.

Now I find my kids making me cards each year…

One one level it’s cute. The geekdaughter came bouncing out of school yesterday waving the card she had made, very pleased with her efforts. “I made it for you Mummy”. At least I know she’s old enough to have decided she wanted to make it, and to have had a choice about what she made.

david_valentine_2013 (400x286)When I collected the geekson from nursery earlier in the week I had a number of different heart-themed crafts pressed into my hands. Including a laminated sheet with his handprints, a remarkably cheesy poem about how he’ll always love Mummy and Daddy and a picture of him holding a large red heart. He’s too little to have decided to do this himself, so this is something nursery have directed him to do. And whilst I appreciate the sentiment, it all feels just a little bit wrong. The day for my kids to make a big fuss of me and tell me they love me is Mothers day, not Valentines day.

(As an aside the geekdaughter has already promised me a lie-in and breakfast in bed for Mothers day, so I think my not-so-subtle hints are finally paying off!)

That said, I must just share with you a close-up of the photo that nursery took of the geekson for his Valentines day creation. I have a feeling this boy might break a few hearts when he’s older…


What do you think? Do you like your kids getting involved in Valentines day, or do you agree with me that it should be about romantic love?

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Mère Blabla February 15, 2013 at 8:16 am

I agree with you, Valentine’s day is romantic love only!


Ross Mountney February 15, 2013 at 10:28 am

I agree – pushing Valentine’s onto kids is creepy. It’s synonymous with dressing them as adults and introducing them to smoking! Or just as cringe-making; asking them ‘is that your girlfriend?’ when they’re four! Creepy! We need to get a grip!
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Kelly February 15, 2013 at 12:11 pm

Blame America. Valentines day when I was a kid (I was born in 1977) was exactly like what your kids experienced this year. Here in the states, it seems like just another day to sell stuff (candy, flowers, expensive dinners) and less about actually celebrating love.
Then again, maybe I’m just jaded and bitter lol. Our VD was spent having a nice home cooked meal. No cards, candy, or flowers. We still thought it was nice :)


HelpfulMum February 15, 2013 at 1:28 pm

I have a very similar post in my drafts which I never got around to finishing. I don’t really get why we encourage children to celebrate Valentine’s Day. I also think it can give them unrealistic expectations of love and romance when they are older. However, if my two take after my husband and I, there is pretty much no possibility that they will be at all romantic!
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Laura February 15, 2013 at 4:16 pm

I agree with you, Valentines Day should be about romantic love, but on the other hand every country seems to have adopted Valentines day as a reason to give cards and buy pink/red stuff, it’s hard to fight.


Kat February 17, 2013 at 6:41 pm

OMG you are so right! I never even realized that but its so true! I want ‘old’ Valentines day tradition back! I mean yeah its kinda cute but c’mon theres mothers day and fathers day right? :D x


Mari February 19, 2013 at 9:17 pm

I agree too. Valentine’s is for romantic love and not for children to their parents.

Fortunately the girls didn’t bring home any Valentine related work from school, like you I would have appreciated the gesture but felt it was wrong
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