It seems that the geekson has reached the stage where he no longer wants an afternoon nap. This has been coming for a while – for the last few months he’s told me he doesn’t want a sleep each time I start to put him down after lunch, although as soon as I got him into his cot he would sleep for anything up to 2 hours. In fact I’d frequently have to go in and wake him up to prevent him sleeping too late. Not lately though…
Just before the Easter holidays he started refusing to sleep at nursery. Usually I’d been able to count on him getting an hour’s (ish) nap on the two days per week he’s in nursery. But no, the week before Easter he lay down with the rest of the kids in his room, and closed his eyes like the rest of them. For some reason the staff had cause to doubt that he really was asleep though, because one of them went over and asked him if he was asleep. With his eyes still closed he smiled and shook his head – little ratbag!
This marked the beginning of the end. Over the Easter holidays we were out and about a lot more than usual, and we didn’t get as many opportunities to put him in bed after lunch. It certainly gives you a lot more flexibility if you can be out all day without worrying about the nap (neither of my kids have every slept well when out and about, either in car or pushchair). So he didn’t nap much. In fact there was only one day when I managed to get him in bed for a nap, because by the second week he was really starting to show signs of being very tired. That day he told me he didn’t want a sleep, and cried when I put him in his cot, but was very quickly asleep and slept for two hours. Unfortunately we then put him to bed at 7pm for the night, and he was in his cot singing to himself and playing with his cuddly toys until about 9pm when he finally drifted off to sleep…
(Yes, he’s pretty good natured on the whole, and will usually just lie (mostly) quietly in his cot if he’s not quite ready to go to sleep.)
So after that incident I’ve been resigning myself to the end of the afternoon nap. I’m sad, firstly because we’re now going through the difficult transition where he’s dropped the nap but gets really tired during the day, so he’s a lot more grumpy than usual. I also need to find another time to spend one-on-one time with the geekdaughter – for the last almost three years the geekson’s naptime has been our “girlie” time, where we’ve done things like painting, gluing or small LEGO which we can’t do as easily with the geekson around. It’s always nice to spend time with each child individually, so I need to make that continue to happen.
However it’s not all bad – we’ve been getting gradually more and more lax over bedtime, and up until recently we’ve been turning the kids’ lights out anywhere between 7.30 and 8pm. Now we’re trying to start the bedtime routine at 6pm, and yesterday evening both kids were in bed, lights out and quiet before 7pm! Giving me time to write a blog post AND do the washing up! It will benefit the geekdaughter as well, as she’s still adjusting to school and finding it all very tiring.
It’s just one more sign that my baby boy is growing up. He’s three next month! I’m going to have to tackle that potty training thing soon *shudder*
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